How often do you take time out to just sit and talk to your child? While you may sit and talk to your kiddo about how his day was, his friends, studies and so on, there are few things that you must tell your child every day. Just like your kids don’t leave the house without kissing you or do not fall asleep with a good night’s kiss, you need to make sure that you say these things to your kid. Clinical psychologist, Namrata Dagia, shares a few things that your child must hear from you every day. And this is for both parents, so you can bookmark this post for your better half to read.
‘I am proud of you.’
Your kid doesn’t have to be an achiever academically or at sports for you to be proud of him. Be proud of your child for who he is and let him know that. This is how you can help your child build a positive body image.
‘I love you.’
Make it a habit of telling your child that you love him every day, no matter how mischevious or quiet he is. However angry you are with your kid, at the end of the day, all you can think about is hugging him tight and forgetting what he did. Share this post if you agree with us on this. Telling him that you love him makes him feel positive, and he knows he can turn to you when he needs support.
‘I believe in you.’
Most kids try hard to make it to the Topper’s list in school just so their parents are proud and happy or, in unfortunate cases, parental pressure. Believe in your kid. No one becomes successful overnight. Give him a chance and be the motivation or inspiration that he is looking for.
‘Your opinions matter.’
Make your child feel important. Ask for his perception or opinion of things and discuss it with him. ‘Sometimes, listening to children and their views gives a good insight. Acknowledging it will lead to solution-oriented thinking pattern’, says Dagia.
‘The more you fall, the more you learn.’
‘Make your child understand that success is not just about winning or losing. It is what you learn out of it and how much hard work you put in,’ advises Dagia. Don’t scold or punish your kid because he failed at something. Praise him for making an attempt to do it.
‘I trust you’
Always play the ‘I trust you’ card to make sure that your kid is not lying to you or is not involved in any mischevious acts that you have forbidden him to do. Your kids must know the value of trust and what can happen if you break someone’s trust.
‘You are kind and responsible.’
Everybody wants to raise a kid who is kind and responsible. This is one of the things that good parents do with their kids.
‘You are smart.’
Just because your child is not getting as many scores as you expect does not mean he is not smart. Maybe there is something else that he likes. Since you are your son/daughter’s first role models, you telling them that they are smart means much more to them than anything else. If you want to raise a smart kid, tell your kid that he smart.